Thomas "Tom" Relevitch

• Stress and anxiety
• LGBT concerns
• Relationship difficulties

About Thomas

Thomas "Tom" Relevitch helps people address stress, anxiety, LGBT concerns, relationship problems and coping with life changes using conversations that focus on the person in front of him. He describes his way of working as creating an open environment for thoughts and feelings to be shared without fear of judgement. He is registered with the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, and has 10 years of professional experience.

Tom draws on client-centred work to keep the focus on each person's experience and priorities. He also uses psychodynamic ideas to look at recurring patterns that can influence current difficulties. Solution-focused methods are used when clients want clear, short-term goals and practical steps to try between sessions.

Common topics he addresses include stress and anxiety, relationship and communication problems, coping with separation or divorce, and issues around identity for people from LGBT backgrounds. He also works with concerns such as abandonment, attachment issues, guilt and shame, infidelity, isolation and questions about life purpose.

Tom has experience supporting people with kink and alternative sex culture matters, and with non-monogamous or polyamorous relationship questions. He also notes experience with multicultural issues and men's midlife concerns.

People choosing to speak with him will find practical conversations that link feelings and day-to-day actions. He aims to agree clear aims together and to check progress as work continues.

How his approaches translate to online counselling

Client-centred therapy focuses on the person's experience and priorities, offering space to talk through feelings and make sense of them. This approach helps when someone wants the conversation guided by what matters most to them.

Psychodynamic work looks at patterns that repeat over time and links between past experience and current responses. It can help when someone wants to understand recurring difficulties in relationships or emotional life.

Solution-focused therapy concentrates on setting small practical goals and finding steps to try between sessions, which is useful for people who want concrete changes within a short time frame.

Choosing the right approach is part of the work. The therapist will discuss options with each person, agree what to try first and review progress together so the plan can be adjusted if needed.

Confirm available session formats before booking, as the biography does not list specific formats. Online counselling can make it easier to fit sessions into a busy week and can allow shorter check-ins or daytime appointments when needed. It also lets people avoid travel and work sessions around other commitments. Registered or accredited professionals often offer online sessions so you can access therapeutic support without rearranging your whole day.

Topics Thomas lists

• Stress and anxiety
• LGBT
• Relationship issues
• Coping with life changes
• Coaching
• Abandonment
• Attachment issues
• BDSM, kink, and alternative sex culture
• Communication problems
• Divorce and separation
• Emptiness
• Family problems
• Guilt and shame
• Infidelity
• Isolation and loneliness
• Life purpose
• Men's issues
• Midlife crisis
• Multicultural concerns
• Polyamory and non-monogamous relationships
• Self-love
• Sexuality
• Social anxiety and phobia
• Workplace issues

Ways of working

• Client-Centred Therapy
• Psychodynamic Therapy
• Solution-Focused Therapy

Questions about Thomas

What problems does he help with?

He helps people with stress, anxiety, relationship problems and coping with life changes, and also covers areas such as abandonment, attachment, infidelity and questions about life purpose.

What kind of counselling does he offer?

He uses client-centred therapy, psychodynamic therapy and solution-focused therapy, mixing approaches to match what each person needs.

How much experience does he have?

He has 10 years of professional experience working in counselling.

What are his credentials and where is he based?

He is registered with the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) and is based in the United Kingdom.

Can I have sessions in languages other than English?

Sessions are offered in English.

Can people outside the UK work with him?

He accepts international clients.

How much do sessions cost?

Cost varies with location; sessions use a subscription that can be cancelled at any time.

How do I begin working with him?

Use the Talk to a counsellor online button, complete the short matching questionnaire and then schedule a first session.